At school, at home, and everywhere else in life you’re taught to care for others- what a great ideology to live by? With hints of socialism it removes money and wealth from the equation and simply leaves a person on a mission to help those that they care for. It sounds all rosy and great but is it really?
Thing is every human on this earth has a different way of thinking, with different boundaries of right and wrong. What you find disputable and revolting may only seem like a little fun to John sauntering down the street. Everyone deserves their opinion and has the right to try and help someone but deep down if john doesn't want to change he's not going to, and nothing you say is going to stop him.
Some fear change like the plague, whilst others are just scared of the consequences of your insinuations even if they agree with your point. But that's no consolation to you. It doesn't exactly make you feel amazing when you're pouring your heart out for millionth time, knowing the person will not listen this time, will not change.
Stuck in their ways like a statue made of dense stone...
Thing is every human on this earth has a different way of thinking, with different boundaries of right and wrong. What you find disputable and revolting may only seem like a little fun to John sauntering down the street. Everyone deserves their opinion and has the right to try and help someone but deep down if john doesn't want to change he's not going to, and nothing you say is going to stop him.
Some fear change like the plague, whilst others are just scared of the consequences of your insinuations even if they agree with your point. But that's no consolation to you. It doesn't exactly make you feel amazing when you're pouring your heart out for millionth time, knowing the person will not listen this time, will not change.
Stuck in their ways like a statue made of dense stone...
No matter how hard you've tried there comes a time when you have to take a look at yourself and stop. Stop doing what makes others 'happy', stop trying to persuade them that you are worthy of that opinion and stop worrying yourself silly for them. I'm not saying you should stop, cut all ties and no longer care; I'm saying it's time you put all this effort into yourself, into you. There is only one person in this entire world that you can entirely hold control over and who is that person? You. You are the one who controls how you act, what you say, and what you do in order to make the world a better place. No one else is in control, only you so implement your advice onto yourself, spend time caring for yourself and loving yourself- I find it most helpful to treat myself to some lovely pampering products, ideally from Lush! :)
Just remember it doesn't matter who you are: the queen or lady gaga- your opinion is very important. That will never change but nevertheless you don't have to share your opinion all the time. If you’re struggling and feel like no one values your opinion than save yourself the emotional pain and don't share it!
Thanks for reading. Hope this helps, have tried to apply this to my life more recently and honestly it does make you feel better. You could always try writing these opinions down and explaining them so it makes it clearer in your head why you feel this way, without getting out of depth: possibly offending or getting into an argument with someone you care about deeply.
Just remember it doesn't matter who you are: the queen or lady gaga- your opinion is very important. That will never change but nevertheless you don't have to share your opinion all the time. If you’re struggling and feel like no one values your opinion than save yourself the emotional pain and don't share it!
Thanks for reading. Hope this helps, have tried to apply this to my life more recently and honestly it does make you feel better. You could always try writing these opinions down and explaining them so it makes it clearer in your head why you feel this way, without getting out of depth: possibly offending or getting into an argument with someone you care about deeply.